July, 2013

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Men’s Group Accountability Questions




  1. Have you been with a woman anywhere this past week that might be seen as compromising?
  2. Have any of your financial dealings lacked integrity?
  3. Have you exposed yourself to any sexually explicit material on Internet of visually such as Victoria Secret Catalog in brassiere section?
  4. Have you lusted after any woman other than your wife with your eyes or thoughts?
  5. Have you spent adequate time in Bible study and prayer?
  6. Have you given priority time to your family?
  7. Have you handled hurt and frustration well this week?
  8. Have you started a kingdom conversation this week? Tell me about it?
  9. Have you just lied to me?

Additional question to discuss

  1. Have you prayed daily for the people God has laid on your heart to witness to in the near future?
  2. Have you and your wife prayed together daily this week?





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Men’s Group – Commitment Sheet

Men’s Group – Do for 4 months – 16 week 

Week 1 and Week 2 – Instructional

Week 3 through 16 – Report on individual progress



I do hereby commit myself for four (4) months, before God and the other UA men in this study, to the following actions. It is understood that this commitment is intended to enhance and further my spiritual development into the image of Jesus Christ, my relationship with my Lord, and my development into the spiritual leader that God intends me to be.

1)             That I will endeavor to spend daily time in the following manner:

  1. 10 minutes in prayer
  2. 10 minutes in the reading and meditating of the Bible
  3. 10 minutes in reading of the book, “How to Start a Kingdom Conversation.”

2)             That I will learn to use the mayishare brochure so well that I can teach it’s use to other Christians and to new believers.

3)             That I will endeavor to share Christ with a blood relative or close friend at least once per week and then report back to the group of my presentation and discussion of how to better improve the mayishare presentation.

4)             That I will consistently attend the designated sessions and will come prepared, both physically and mentally, to learn the lessons that the Lord has for me.

5)             That I will endeavor to allow the time and lessons of this study to cause change and growth in my character, my spirituality, my ability to improve my witnessing techniques and my leadership capabilities.

Name: ________________________________________________


Signature: _____________________________________________


Date: _________________________


1 Corinthians 15:58: “Therefore, my beloved brethren, be steadfast, immovable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, knowing that your labor is not in vain in the Lord.”

Philippians 4:13: “I can do all things through Him who strengthens me.”

Philippians 4:6-7: “Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made know unto God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, shall guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”



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Evangelism material when talking to different cultures


Evangelism material for UA Grace


Questions are to start a spiritual conversation when you are presently engaged in a cultural conversation.

Possible questions to ask people when trying to find out if someone has made a commitment to Christ.  (Cultural conversation into a Kingdom conversation)

New Christian or Christian who is timid

Use three questions that everyone can ask:

1)   – “What is happening in your life that your excited about?” (Listen to what they are saying and show high interest about their excitement)

2)   – (After they slow down their explanation about their excitement, say) “Can I tell you what I am excited about in my life?”

3)   – “I prayed to accept Christ as my personal Savior and I am so excited about having Christ in my life when I look around and see the turmoil United States is going through at this time.” “What are your thoughts about that?”


Situational opportunities

Grocery Store/Restaurant – check out person – “Make a great day, you can make it anything you want!” They usually will say, “Yes, that is right. We really can make it what we want.” I then add if appropriate, “You can really make it a great day if you have the Lord in your life.”

Waitress or Waiter – “We are getting ready to bless this food. Is there anything we can pray about for you or a member of your family?”


Acquaintances (Assuming you know where they attend church)

Ask them this question, “What evangelism tools does your church use?”

Listen and then ask them if you can show them what you are using to get

their advice on your evangelism tools.

Timing to share with people at work.

Realize that you cannot force your views on others you work with but you can do the following:


Do F.OR.M.  Questions to find area of concern in their life. Could be

fear of losing a job, wife’s health, daughter’s friends, etc.


Family – Ask questions about the personals family – (Parents, sister,

brother, children, grandchildren) “Tell me about your parents,

or your sister. Where did you meet your wife? How many

children to you have? Do all of your children appear to be

fairly happy in life?”

Occupation – Ask questions about their work employment. “Do you like

your work?  How long have they been working at this

particular job,? Are they looking to find a different job in

same or different area of employment?”

Retirement/Recreation – Ask questions about retirement. “When they

plan to retire? What do they already do with their retirement

activity? Are they still active participating in sports or are

they just observers? Do they exercise regularly? What is

their exercise regime?”

Motivation/Money – Ask questions like, “If money were not a concern

and you had all you wanted, what would you do? Do you think

that would make you happy? What is there in your life that when

you get out of bed; you are just so excited to do? Do you ever

read motivational books? Why not? Do you think money can buy

happiness? Do you know any wealthy people that are really

happy and have a great relationship with their spouse and

children and God as well?”

Suggested approach after finding out a personal concern of a co-worker or relative they may have in their life:

With your permission may I pray for_______?”

(Duke has found this to be the best lead-in at any time) Write the request down on a piece of paper making sure the individual sees you writing down the requests.

As you are writing down the prayer requests, you may want to say:

“You do agree that God answers pray, don’t you?” – (Obviously they do as they have just asked you to pray for the request

When they acknowledge God answers pray, ask,

“What do you think about God?”


Follow-up: Perhaps you can ask, “As you know I have been praying for_______. I have been praying this prayer ____________. How can I best pray for _______?”  This will allow you to do this at work and then when timing is right, you can ask them to go to lunch with you away from business property.


Accountability with 1 or 2 other Christians who also want to share their faith and need someone else to hold them accountable. By calling your accountability partner you can ask them, “Have you started a Kingdom conversation this week?” Each partner will tell of a situation they found themselves in this week that they could or did take advantage of to start a Kingdom conversation and the results of that encounter. Those who force themselves to share Christ will feel so good about their sharing that they will be excited to share with their accountability partner.


Prayer is mandatory:

If we have blood relatives or certain people that we want to share Christ with, it is imperative that those names be held up to Christ daily and that part of  your accountability is also praying for those individuals.

It is also imperative that we ask Christ every morning to bring someone into our life to share Christ with that day. God will answer those prayer requests.

Questions that could be asked:

“ Do you believe in absolute truth?”

“What do you think about absolute truth; is there such a thing?”

“What would be your source of finding that truth?”

“Do you believe the Bible contains absolute truth?”

“Do you fell if the 10 commandments were followed we could find absolute truth?”

“What do you think is the Christian World Viewpoint in 2010?”

“Is there a difference between Moral truth and Biblical truth?”

“Do you believe we should be tolerant of those who do not believe in absolute truth? What suggestions do you have to help me try to be tolerant?”

 Statement of fact:

         “Christianity is the only religion where God reaches down to man rather than man having to prove himself to be ‘good enough’ for God to accept them!”

“God died on the cross for our sins, we did not die on the cross for God.”

“There is nothing you and I can do to find favor with God to erase our sinful nature.”

Muslim faith:

The following suggested questions are to ask someone you do not suspect to be a Muslim but only trying to engage in conversation to lead up to talking about your faith in Christ.

“What do you know about the Muslim faith? How does it differ with your views as a Christian?

“Do you think USA should be concerned with the Muslim influence? What do you think we can do about it?”

“Do you think Allah is the same as God of the Christian faith?”

“Where did the Muslim faith start? Isaac vs. Ishmael origin?” How old was Ishmael when Isaac was born?” (age 13) “Would that account for the Muslims understanding that they are the descendents of Abraham?” (Biblical culture gave most inheritance to oldest son)

Atheist faith:

“Do you believe there is such a thing as an Atheist? Do you feel there are any Atheist in foxholes when the bullets are hitting around them or they have been in a car accident and are bleeding?”

How to combat an atheist:

When approaching an atheist say, “You have got more faith than I have!” “How do you look at a tree, or the moon or a new board baby, and not know that it is created rather than evolved?

Tell a Story – Atheist has more faith that the Christian – easier to believe in creation.

Fingerprints – Thousands born each day and none alike – even twins

Formula of H-2-O –  Can not make water with those chemicals.

Acorn buried in King Tut’s tomb – grow if planted and scientists can use

chemicals to make an acorn but not get it to grow

Tell a Story – Take watch apart and put all of the parts on the table. As you show putting all of those parts in your pocket ask the question, “How long would you have to jump to hear it tick?”


“I Didn’t Have Time” – Poem


I got up early one morning and rushed right into the day;

I had so much to accomplish – that I didn’t have time to pray.


Problems just tumbled about me and heavier came each task;

“Why doesn’t God help me,” I wondered.

He answered, “You didn’t ask.”


I wanted to see joy and beauty BUT the day toiled on, gray and bleak,

I wondered why God didn’t show me. He said, “But you didn’t seek.”


I tried to come into God’s presence; I used all my keys at the lock,

God gently and lovingly chided, “My child you didn’t knock.”


I woke up early this morning and paused before entering the day,

I had so much to accomplish, that I had to take time to pray.


Duke Heller






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Fear/Faith Definition – It is same definition



“Believe something you can not see, hear or feel will come true”



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Using Christian Principles to Maintain a Positive Attitude in 2013

Using Christian principles to maintain a positive attitude in 2013

What choices of attitude are available to you and I in 2013?

1- Negative2013 will be a horrible year – inflation, health care uncertainty, job loses, teenage use of alcohol and drugs, divorce rates, lack of Christian principles – Fox News

2- Can’t do anything about future attitude. God is in charge, just need to get through the year. Don’t have much influence over culture so just pray children and grandchildren will make it through and use God in decisions….and then we die!

3- Grumbling attitude – Numbers 14: And all the people of Israel grumbled against Moses and Aaron. The whole congregation said to them, “Would that we had died in the land of Egypt! Or would that we had died in this wilderness! 3 Why is the Lord bringing us into this land, to fall by the sword? Our wives and our little ones will become a prey. Would it not be better for us to go back to Egypt?” 4 And they said to one another, “Let us choose a leader and go back to Egypt.”

Penalty of Grumbling????  40 yrs Wilderness,

Health Issues, Ulcers, Headaches


4- Trials that we will learn so we can help someone who is going through that same trial

What should be the goal of a trial?

 How can God use me to share Christ!

Can you point to the exact time you accepted Christ? Duke’s story

5- Positive attitude directed to making a difference in your family, your work place, your church, your marriage, and your walk with God to see how you best can serve Christ in 2010.  

GOAL OF TRIALS: How can God use me to share Christ!

Everyone is:

  1. In the middle of a problem
  2. Just got over a problem
  3. About to have a problem

Zig – Story – waitress – Make a great day!

How should we approach trials in our life?

  1. Joy
  2. Thankful



James 1:1-8          James, a servant of God and of the Lord Jesus Christ, To the twelve tribes in the Dispersion: Greetings. 2 Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, 3     for you know that the testing of your faith produces endurance. 4And let endurance have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing. 5 If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him. 6         But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea that is driven and tossed by the wind. 7 For that person must not suppose that he will receive anything from the Lord; 8 he is a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways. [i]

Trials are not to be seen as tribulations but testings. A test is given to see if a student can pass, not pass out. James gave sound advice on how to score high on every test.

One who brings the right attitude to the trial, who understands the advantage of the trial, and who knows where to obtain assistance in the trial will certainly end up on God’s honor roll.

How do you handle interruptions in your schedule??   Trial or Opportunity?

It is important to note that James did not say that a believer should be joyous for the trials but in the trials[1]

When surrounded by these trials, one should respond with joy. Most people count it all joy when they escape trials. James said to count it all joy in the midst of trials

Our attitude toward trials (James 1:2–4). James called on us to actually welcome trials and difficulties. These are to produce unmixed joy, not because the trials themselves are pleasurable, but because we look beyond the immediate experience to foresee the result.

God permits such experiences as a test (intended to show the validity, not weakness) of our faith. Such trials call for perseverance, which in turn produces maturity and spiritual wholeness. If we are able to look beyond the present and see the product God intends to produce through our suffering, we will experience joy.

This perspective is impossible for most men. But those who have confidence in God value character above pleasure, and eternity above the present moment.

Our expectation of God’s aid (James 1:5–8). Trials are likely to panic us. When a person doesn’t know which way to turn, he or she may fear to make decisions or may constantly change his or her mind. James reminded us that ours is a giving God, and one of His gifts is wisdom.

This “wisdom” is practical: it is the capacity to apply spiritual truth to daily decisions.

James promised that God will show the person who asks the way to go. “Belief” here suggests a willingness to respond and act on God’s guidance. The wavering individual, who hesitates to respond obediently, will be unable to receive what the Lord is eager to give.[ii]

Trials can be faced with joy because, infused with faith, perseverance results, and if perseverance goes full-term it will develop a thoroughly mature Christian who lacks nothing. He will indeed be all God wants him to be.

James’ argument may seem logical, but it is still difficult to see how trials can be welcomed with an attitude of joy. Where does one turn for help to understand this paradox?


1:5. To those who feel confused and frustrated by the high goal of “not lacking anything,” James wrote, If any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God. Assistance is readily available from “the giving God”. To those who lack wisdom, this valuable resource is available for the asking. James assumed his readers would feel the need for wisdom, not just knowledge. God will not only provide wisdom, but will do so generously, not grudgingly.



Heavenly Father, you are in charge of everything that will happen to me today—whether good or bad, positive or negative. Please make me thankful for everything that happens to me today. Please give me your wisdom to handle events of today. Expand my ministries for you today.  I give you the right to set the agenda for my life today. Help me to do those things that are on your agenda as well as those you have given me on my list of items to do today. Please forgive me for____________? I am grateful for______________?


Philippians 4: 6-8

6 do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. 7 And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. 8 Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.

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2 Corinthians 1:3-9

Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, 4 who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God. 5 For as we share abundantly in Christ’s sufferings, so through Christ we share abundantly in comfort too. 6 If we are afflicted, it is for your comfort and salvation; and if we are comforted, it is for your comfort, which you experience when you patiently endure the same sufferings that we suffer. 7 Our hope for you is unshaken, for we know that as you share in our sufferings, you will also share in our comfort. 8 For we do not want you to be ignorant, brothers, of the affliction we experienced in Asia. For we were so utterly burdened beyond our strength that we despaired of life itself. 9 Indeed, we felt that we had received the sentence of death. But that was to make us rely not on ourselves but on God who raises the dead.  Past trials –Divorce, bankruptcy, what to look for in marriage – grandchildren


Phil 3:12-16

Not that I have already obtained this or am already perfect, but I press on to make it my own, because Christ Jesus has made me his own. 13 Brothers, I do not consider that I have made it my own. But one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead, 14 I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus. 15 Let those of us who are mature think this way, and if in anything you think otherwise, God will reveal that also to you. 16 Only let us hold true to what we have attained.



Romans 12:1-2

1. I appeal to you therefore, brothers, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable to God, which is your spiritual worship. 2 Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.



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